One of the most powerful methods I use in my practice is the Hakomi Method. Hakomi is a mindful, somatic approach to exploring and shifting the root causes of self sabotage, procrastination, ineffective communication, and more.
Hakomi… is something that I found very helpful for learning to feel again, after a lifetime of numbing and dissociation… it’s been a process to relearn how to feel, and to embrace that sensitivity as a gift and not just a liability.” – Tim Ferriss
In practical terms I can teach you how to slow down your mental chatter and focus using simple mindfulness training techniques. We develop this ability to focus together and then turn that focusing tool inward towards the body, thoughts, and emotions. By learning to carefully observe it becomes clear that all of our emotions, impulses and things we don’t want to see, or don’t even know exist, are constantly being expressed.
Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate. – Carl Jung
The clues can be subtle, and often invisible to us without the aid of an outside eye. Changes in breathing. Tension appearing in the chest or shoulders. This is where a guide can help by pausing and helping you go deeper into those moments. One client said it was like learning to see what they spent a lifetime training themselves to ignore.
What clients have said during sessions:
That was like 3 years [of work] in 10 minutes.
This is like self-awareness 3.0!
The power of noticing these indications that there is more to the story is that… we get to know the whole story!
Once we understand what is actually motivating the sometimes baffling and counterproductive things we do, they don’t seem so mysterious and, better yet, we have a chance to address and change the real source of the challenge. And, of course, there are tools for doing this as well.
Hakomi History
The Hakomi Method was developed as a synthesis and evolution of material from Internal Family System (IFS or “Parts Work”), Gendlin’s Focusing, Buddhist and Daoist practices, Somatic Experiencing and more. It incorporates learnings about Memory Reconsolidation and nervous system regulation (Polyvagal Theory).
While these techniques are not appropriate for every client in every situation, the Hakomi toolkit is incredibly powerful for skipping past the guesses and stories we tell and finding, facing, and shifting our real motivations and fears.
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